Monthly Archives: April 2012

Caring & Sharing & Bacon

Confession: I have ambivalent feelings about bacon.* I do not hate it but do not love it either. I can take it or leave it so, given the option, I usually leave it. (I would rather my unhealthy food consumption be things I really enjoy.) Feel free to commence teasing and declaring me un-American as some of my bacon-loving male coworkers did… until they realized the perks of my bacon ambivalence.

I recently went out for dinner with a group of coworker-friends. I was chatting quietly with the new girl (she’s been here for months, but will be the new girl until a newer one comes along) when she mentioned she wanted the chicken club sandwich with American cheese and no bacon. I replied, “I think I’m going to order that too, but we should get the bacon on the side.”

She looked confused, “Why?”

I looked around the table at the six men caught up in their own conversations. “See all these guys? Most of them would be very happy to eat the bacon we don’t want… and it’s already included in the price of the sandwich. I’ve learned I should almost never say no to bacon because someone else wants it if I don’t.”

One of the guys across the table from us grinned, “I am SO glad I’m sitting at this end of the table!”**

Showing people we care does not always require grand gestures. It certainly takes effort to observe them and get to know what they appreciate. It also takes attentiveness and initiative to watch for and take opportunities. It is well worth the effort, though, to remind people they matter to us.

*Yes, I am talking about real, made-from-a-pig bacon and not the turkey impostor that tastes more like salted cardboard than actual meat.

**Results may vary; not everyone appreciates bacon.

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God is infinitely creative… He doesn’t waste anything. – Paula Hemphill at Life Impact

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…the more I found that while it had established a rule and order, the chief aim of that order was to give room for good things to run wild. -G.K. Chesterton on Christianity

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Lows & Highs: April 3-9

With all the birthday excitement on Monday and Tuesday, I saved my weekly Lows & Highs post for today.

Low: I had a very klutzy day last Saturday. First, I bashed my knee against console in the backseat of the car I rode in. (I now sport a lovely purple bruise.) At lunch, I gently squeezed the barbecue sauce bottle and the lid promptly popped off, dumping the contents all over my plate. (We discovered later that a piece of garlic was wedged in the tip of the lid, so it was a barbecue explosion waiting to happen.) While eating lunch, I managed to drop a slippery piece of sauce-covered asparagus into my lap. Before lunch was over, I also bit the side of my tongue so hard it bled.

High: We had a family birthday party for my sister and me on Saturday. Aside from getting to see some of my favorite people all in the same place, my favorite parts were playing bocci ball indoors and eating delicious food (especially the twice-baked potatoes, strawberry shortcake, and cinnamon-swirl cheesecake).

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A Milestone Birthday

Today is my 30th birthday and I used to think I would feel older when this one rolled around. I used to think it would bother me to leave my twenties. I have heard, as they approach significant birthdays, some people have quarter- or mid-life crises or make drastic changes to their lives or work to cross items off their bucket lists.

No crisis here, I am thrilled about my life and looking forward to everything God has in store for this year (which I suppose could include drastic changes, He hasn’t clued me in yet). I also have nothing to cross off my bucket list because I do not have one (shocking, I know, considering the number of lists I make).

In the past thirty years, this perfectionistic planner has learned my plans often do not work out. This delighted dreamer has learned the God-written story I am living is far more blessed and adventurous than I ever imagined. With those life lessons in mind, I offer you my List.

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There is nothing like a dream to create the future. – Victor Hugo, Les Miserables

What are you dreaming for the future?

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Drawing a Blank

On an April 9th in the 1980s, I received what I thought was the greatest birthday present ever: a baby sister born the day before my second birthday. Decades later, I still hold the same opinion.

I tend to remember random events and stories and experiences in vivid detail for a very long time. A couple years ago, my mom (ever the scientist) quizzed me to see how far back I could remember. I was able to recall an entire conversation I had with a family friend before I was two. As I rummaged through my memories, looking for milestones, I grew puzzled. “Mom, I don’t remember going to the hospital to see Sara when she was born. I remember Sally* still in her package but I have no memory of going to the hospital and I know I was excited about seeing her.”

A sheepish look crept across Mom’s face, “Oh. Um, there’s a reason for that.”

“What, you didn’t let me go?”

“Well, you had a cold so when Dad went home [from the hospital after Sara was born], I told him to give you 1/2 teaspoon** of Dimetapp. When he brought you to the hospital, you looked worse. You were kind of lethargic and your eyes were a little glazed. I thought you might have meningitis or something and thought to myself, ‘Oh, no, we’re all going to be in the hospital!’ I asked Dad if he gave you the Dimetapp. He said, ‘Yes.’ I asked, ‘How much?’

’1/2 tablespoon.’**

So you don’t remember because you were overdosed on cold medicine.”

Units matter, people.

*Sally was the doll I received the next day. She is on the far right in the earliest picture of Sara and me.

**Edited because my mom says it was 1/2 teaspoon/tablespoon instead of 2.

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Motivation

Christ’s love has moved me to such extremes. His love has the first and last word in everything we do. – 2 Corinthians 5:14

So, naturally, we proclaim Christ! We warn everyone we meet, and we teach everyone we can, all that we know about him, so that, if possible, we may bring every man up to his full maturity in Christ. This is what I am working at all the time, with all the strength that God gives me. – Colossians 1:28-29

In college Bible study on Monday, we discussed our motivation for interacting with others and talk eventually turned to “How do we do this in real life?” (a.k.a. practical application).

Someone mentioned that the way the students live now, the habits they form, and the way they choose to apply life lessons are good indicators of how they will act after college. As I considered that, I realized how true it is of my life, particularly the way I approach relationships and community.

In college, I looked for ways to interact with people and get to know their stories and what they were enthusiastic about. As I grew to know them, I tried to include them in whatever I was doing – hanging out in the library between classes, game nights, Bible studies, campus events, lunches in the cafeteria, and so on. I enjoyed introducing people and seeing them form friendships. I offered an invitation for people to connect with me and others, to be part of a community on whatever level they chose. Some of them accepted and some did not, but I still communicated that I cared and liked them as they were and liked having them around.

I have been out of college for years and I do not have opportunities to interact with as many people now, but I still invite people into my life and community. Off the top of my head, I can think of a number of people just from work who have accepted my invitations to float trips, lunches, Bible studies, game nights, church, murder mystery night, coffee, etc. in the past year. This is not about having an active social life or about how many people I know, I want to meet people where they are and share lives with them because they matter to Christ and to me.

I don’t use myself as an example because I have this figured out or because I think I got it right but because I tried. Sometimes this seems to work and sometimes it does not. I still keep watching for opportunities to connect with people on a personal level, to get to know them, to look for opportunities to invite and include them.

I love people, talk to them, invite them into my life (and share theirs). I listen to God and love Him and spend time with Him and obey Him. That is my part. God’s part is the internal, heart-and-soul work I don’t always see.

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Lows & Highs: March 27-April 2

Last night at Bible study, I may have forgotten to share my low and high from the past week. I was excited about our topic (motivation) and hearing about others’ weeks, so I’ll excuse myself this time.

Low: On Saturday, I took my car to a nearby car wash. As I turned on the power sprayer, the hose began dripping from the very top of the bay and the gentle breeze kept blowing those copious drips of water and detergent right onto my head. It wasn’t a big deal, I washed it off in the shower when I got home.

High: Test week meant no homework assignments for my online class. (Plus I passed the test, which is always a high.)

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The tempter always works on some real weakness in our own system of values: offers food to some need which we have starved. – C.S. Lewis

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