Every Monday, I post and answer a selection from my collection of good questions. This week’s question is “What didn’t last forever but was still worth your while?”
College Friendships Didn’t Last Like I Expected
In my experience, most friendships are seasonal and do not last forever. This perspective never seems truer than in college. As students, we arrived eager to do something that mattered to us, to be who we thought we were, to belong to a community. From the beginning, we planned to be in college for a short time – a year, four years, six years. Most of us made friends despite the “expiration date” of graduation day. We made friends with people knowing not all of the relationships would last (or promising each other that we would be the exception). In the end, life and distance and a whole host of post-college experiences filled our time and most of those college relationships changed or faded away altogether.
Although I still chat on the phone or schedule in-person visits when I’m in the right area, most of those college friendships have faded into distant memories or maybe into keeping up whenever we appear in each other’s Facebook newsfeeds. I used to feel badly about not maintaining the relationships to the extent I had intended but now my philosophy is that it is natural for friendships to change.
We will never again be teenagers or twenty-somethings living in college dorms and apartments together, complaining about cafeteria food and joking about professors and asking each other hard questions. Nevertheless I value those inside jokes, hard questions and stories we lived together. I enjoyed my college years in a large part because of the friends I made during that season where our lives intersected in time and space.
If you are one of my college friends, I still remember you and tell stories about fun times and life lessons from our season together. College friends, getting to know you was undoubtedly worthwhile.
Now It’s Your Turn to Ask & Answer
Take the questions and ask your friends or family. I would love to hear your answers in the comments (seriously. that’s why I ask, after all)! If you have suggestions of questions for me to include, let me know.