Welcome to Lows & Highs, a Stories from the Stairs weekly-ish feature! Feel free to join in by posting your lows and highs from the week in the comments or by posting a link to your own lows and highs blog post.
Missed Sleeping Opportunity
On Wednesday, I was dragging and had to drag myself out of bed. It was not until I was almost to school that I realized it was a late start day and I did not have to be at school until nine. Instead of driving all the way back home, I drove a couple blocks farther to my favorite coffee shop, sipped a gingerbread Americano, and read a book. I really would have liked to sleep in, though!
We have had lots of seasonal social activities this week!
On Thursday, we met with our Barton students for our last Campus Christian Fellowship
Bible study of 2014. We talked about celebration and treasuring experiences in our hearts and what we have noticed God doing this semester. I loved hearing some of the students share!
On Friday, Brian and I had a three-part date night. First, we went to the college Christmas party and visited with some of his coworkers with their spouses. Second, we had dinner at The Page
. Finally, the highlight of the evening – and my whole week – was the Jingle Bell Swing! We danced and chatted and watched the Barton Hilltop Singers (show choir).
On Saturday, we had First Friday Game Night that we rescheduled from Friday so we could have date night at the dance. Boy, was the house packed! We had raucous games going at two different tables at one point.
On Sunday, I played with toddlers in the church nursery and we packed our table full of college students again for lunch.
Every Monday, I post and answer a selection from my collection of good questions. This week’s question is “What didn’t last forever but was still worth your while?”
College Friendships Didn’t Last Like I Expected
In my experience, most friendships are seasonal and do not last forever. This perspective never seems truer than in college. As students, we arrived eager to do something that mattered to us, to be who we thought we were, to belong to a community. From the beginning, we planned to be in college for a short time – a year, four years, six years. Most of us made friends despite the “expiration date” of graduation day. We made friends with people knowing not all of the relationships would last (or promising each other that we would be the exception). In the end, life and distance and a whole host of post-college experiences filled our time and most of those college relationships changed or faded away altogether.
Although I still chat on the phone or schedule in-person visits when I’m in the right area, most of those college friendships have faded into distant memories or maybe into keeping up whenever we appear in each other’s Facebook newsfeeds. I used to feel badly about not maintaining the relationships to the extent I had intended but now my philosophy is that it is natural for friendships to change.
We will never again be teenagers or twenty-somethings living in college dorms and apartments together, complaining about cafeteria food and joking about professors and asking each other hard questions. Nevertheless I value those inside jokes, hard questions and stories we lived together. I enjoyed my college years in a large part because of the friends I made during that season where our lives intersected in time and space.
If you are one of my college friends, I still remember you and tell stories about fun times and life lessons from our season together. College friends, getting to know you was undoubtedly worthwhile.
Now It’s Your Turn to Ask & Answer
Take the questions and ask your friends or family. I would love to hear your answers in the comments (seriously. that’s why I ask, after all)! If you have suggestions of questions for me to include, let me know.